Why I No Longer Take Male Clients (and What That Really Means)

When I first started my massage practice, I accepted clients of all genders. I genuinely wanted to help as many people as possible through bodywork. At my core, I believe that everyone deserves access to care. Gender or sexuality does not change that.

Over time, I began to notice a pattern. Not everyone, but enough experiences where my work was misunderstood or approached with the wrong intention. In some cases, there were expectations that went beyond the scope of professional massage, including requests or implications of inappropriate services.

Massage, for me, is about healing, calming the nervous system, and creating a safe and respectful space for the body to unwind. When that intention is not respected, it can shift the entire session environment. Because of this, I decided to primarily work with women and couples and to take male clients by referral. This helps me maintain a space where I feel safe, focused, and able to fully show up for my work.

That being said, I am not completely closed off. If a male client genuinely needs bodywork, communicates respectfully, and the interaction feels safe, I am open to working together.

If you are reaching out for an appointment, I ask that you take a moment to introduce yourself, communicate clearly, and share what you are looking for and why you are seeking bodywork. This helps me understand your intention and decide if we are a good fit. Based on that, I may accept your appointment.

This is not about assuming anything about all men. It is about setting boundaries based on my experiences, while still leaving room for trust and mutual respect.

Creating a safe and grounded environment allows me to show up fully, and that ultimately benefits every client I work with.